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Throughout my day, I hear many couples struggling to get back that original feeling of love they have lost. They know they care about one another but things just aren’t what they use to be. They feel they keep arguing about the same old things and long for their partner to just hear them! They feel there is no passion. They don’t talk to each other and feel like they live parallel lives. Or, one person is unavailable – either they work too much, pay more attention to the children, stay on the computer too long, …..
Does this sound familiar? If so, know that you have lots of company. All couples go through stages in their relationship. The one above is called the Power Struggle. The Power Struggle doesn’t mean you are with the wrong person! It means you are with the right person, but just don’t know what to do with them. So, don’t give up hope. There is a way through this so that you can reconnect again.
My job, as an Imago Therapist, is to help you safely reconnect with your partner in a way that you both feel heard and understood. The purpose of relationship is to help each you grow into your full aliveness and be the best person you can be. And it is in your intimate love relationship that you begin to learn how to become that person. Imago Relationship Therapy believes that each couple has everything they need between the two of them to help each other grow up and become whole again. There are many tools that couples learn in this type of therapy to help this process be less painful. Some of the tools are The Intentional Dialogue, Appreciations, Caring Behaviors and Behavior Change Request, to name just a few. To see how appreciations are done, look in the article section at Daily Appreciations. If you would like to learn more about these tools in a weekend, sign up for the "Getting The Love You Want" weekend workshop or schedule a therapy session. These tools can really transform your relationship.
Self Discovery
Humans have a natural drive to grow into thier full aliveness. You may notice this in yourself by an indescribable longing or an awareness that you know you can be more comfortable with yourself if something were different. Your curiosity and hope to be more authentic has already begun to transform you because you are presently reading this. You have already started your adventure into self-discovery.
An adventure of self-discovery can be exciting, scary and sometimes confusing. So, as you begin this journey, I would like you to think about counseling or therapy as an over-arching paradigm which organizes thought and understanding. When working with clients, I use both Gestalt and Imago Relationship theories. Gestalt therapy focuses on healing unfinished business so that you can get on with the business of living. It holds the view that people are endlessly remaking and discovering themselves and therefore individuals are in constant transformation. It helps clients increase awareness of themselves, aspects of themselves, and their relationship with others. Techniques help clients work through and move beyond painful emotional blocks in an ongoing process. This then allows clients to explore new behaviors first in the context of the therapeutic relationship, and then, in the outside world.
Imago Relationship Therapy's approach is to create a safe framework for couples to get to know who their partner really is and to enter into a deep and genuine relationship with them. Instead of working on the relationship between client and therapist, the focus in Imago is on the relationship between the two partners. Couples are taught skills to enhance connection, whether the connection is through conflict or appreciation.
Both Gestalt and Imago therapies are safe, respectful and gentle ways to begin to explore yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
NOT READY FOR COUPLES THERAPY? TRY A COUPLES WORKSHOP OR A PRIVATE INTENSIVE WORKSHOP:
Based on the work of Dr. Harville Hendrix, the "Getting the Love You Want" workshop is presented world-wide to couples who want to create extraordinary, life-long relationships. You will begin to see your relationship, your partner, and yourself in a new light. It will help you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship. In short, it is a workshop about the theory and practice of becoming passionate friends. It is an intensive two-day workshop for partners in all stages of relationships designed to help you rediscover the joy of being together while using your relationship for personal development and growth.
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